DAY 5
Grieving task 5: GETTING NEW FRIENDSHIPS
Girlfriends/boyfriends,
more contact with grandma and grandpa, aunts and uncles, dad's friend, mom's
friend
In advance: Cut cardboard shields, plus the handles (cut and
fold cardboard strips, see below), adhesive tape
Or: copy mandalas, have
paper and colored pencils/felt-tip pens at hand
Check in advance with
the parent(s) whether the grief symptoms that were checked during the intake
have changed / have disappeared.
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Looking back at the past four meetings
Do you remember what
we all did the last few times?.................
Identify what has
changed for the better (no more stomach aches or headaches, tics like blinking
with the eyes, skin rash or bad dreams, etc.)……………………
What else has
changed now that your......is no longer here?
1. Are you still
sitting in the same place at the table?.....................
2. Has mom/dad
changed? How?......................
Coping with a loss is
like healing a very deep wound. There is always a scar left, which occasionally
reminds you of what happened.
And every now and
then you might have a feeling that ...... is with you too. Just like you. Every
now and then you think about …… and you can talk to …… for a moment, then you
feel that you are connected to each other. The bond with your…… will ALWAYS last.
And one day you will be together again, when your life here on earth is
finished.
But you also have to
play and learn and work. So you don't have all day to think about ………….. But
that doesn't matter.
School
How
are you doing at school now?
………………. (if necessary you can possibly be working with the Sun or
earthing!)
What
things do you like to do? …………………………..
Having fun doesn't
mean you forgot someone! Because dad or mom or…………… will NEVER be forgotten!!!
……... IS ALWAYS KEPT
DEEP IN YOUR HEART, EVEN WHEN YOU ARE PLAYING!
We are also going to
look forward again.
What
is your dream for later? ……………….. What
would you like to do/who do you want to be when you grow up? ………………………
A
personal (magical shield)
We are goint to make a personal (magical) shield, that can help you get to know yourself better. The shield shows who you are and gives you strength. Moreover, you literally have something in your hands that makes you feel protected (your own power).
A family escutcheon /
shield, used to be used to recognize knights during a battle, fighting against
each other; during this time it is used to recognize families or companies. The
planes that make up a shield are the symbols used to describe the bearer's
identity in detail and with pride.
The shield consists
of four faces, each with a different meaning. You can draw or paste something in
those areas. Your name and photo will also appear on the shield.
1st
level: What are you good at? Who are you?
2nd level : What are you not so good at yet or what are you still afraid of or what do you still find difficult?
3rd level: What do you want to
be/do when you grow up?
(in
a book, cartoon character, film, or TV) e.g. Zorro,
Spiderman, Harry Potter, a person from a pop group.
Life goes on after
someone's death. That's just how it is.
You will gradually
become part of normal life again. After the death of your ..... a new life has
begun for you, without your .....
If you can choose
whether you are pathetic or as strong as a bear, which would you choose to be?
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This is the end of DAY FIVE
Take the worry notes from the worry tree and give them to the owner. (For the treasure box)
For at home: Make a memory notebook, ask relatives,
grandparents or aunts and uncles to tell stories about ……….. that they remember
well.
Or write a letter to the deceased “What I wanted to say to you"….
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